Boundries are an important asset

Many times in our lives we have been hurt or angry about something that someone close to us have done or said. 
Just think if you were an individual who was consistent with communication
and what was clear about what is acceptable and not acceptable with people in your life what your life might look like.

Control is an illusion when it comes to other people. 
An individual can only control their actions and reactions in thoughts, their words and what they choose to do or not do. 
Boundaries can not be clear when we use the illusion of control regarding other people.

If you communicated to those you love with kind, true and necessary thoughts and words
while elimating the emotional dramatic reactionary verbiage that sends us sideways
 in our communication -- would it make a difference in your life?  You bet it would. 

It is also true that while we think we can demand other people to talk and walk like us,
it is only us trying to take control of other people, as well. 
Have you ever seen the person who stomps their feet, shouts to the roof tops what they want YOU to do or say? 
This is also a form of control.  And the boundries are never clear when you are creating chaos for others or yourself.

Take a deep breathe, think about what you are saying or doing, connect your emotions on how "you feel" then breathe again. 
When it is someone or something important to you.....Best advise....breathe, be aware of how you are displaying body language and speak with compassion a direct verbiage dialogue.

Take a look at the debate on TV News between opposite thinkers.  Do they really get any place with each other when they demand what they think is the only way?  Is it important in a debate to listen before speaking?
Absolutely.  You'll never win a debate closed eared and open mouthed. 

The best boundaries are ones we create for ourselves....our actions, our words and our physical display. 

If something is important it is worth the time and energy to define your own reactionary boundaries.