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On The Horizon - Announcing our very own radio show.

Susan and Christine Anderson — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 16:50:00 GMT

Starting Saturday April 4th 1pm - 3pm eastern time, we will be hitting the airwaves with our own radio show. This show will air in the Sarasota, FL area with other states coming soon. You will be also able to listen over the internet as well. Our show will be called "Out of the Box with Susan and Christine Anderson" We encourage call in and will be doing some readings. We will also be discussing many topics from life and about extra sensory skills with you... our listeners.

The station information is:

1220 am in Sarasota, Fl
The website is www.newstalk1220.com

We are look forward to hearing from you,

Susan and Chrisitne Anderson

Ponder This- If they do not have what you want - Go fish!

Susan and Christine Anderson — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 21:57:00 GMT

Children's books and games have taught use so much. All you need to do is remember, then choose wisely so you get another turn.

Frankly Speaking - The wise farmer

Susan and Christine Anderson — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 21:34:00 GMT

Just have a story for this week that just seems fitting based on the economy and life lately for most. There is no doubt, we as a country are going through a tough time. It is easy to get negative and stay there. In life and the universe everything that is negative has a positive and with that let me tell you this story. I know that it comes from the eastern culture but not sure of it's origin.

There was a farming in a small village. A man was passing through town and met this farmer.
The visitor gave the man a horse and the whole village said "That is so lucky". He said, "you think?"

The next day the farmer's son rode the horse and fell off. He broke his leg. The whole village said "Wow, that is so unlucky". The farmer replied, "You think?"

The country was at war and the next day notice was give to this small village that sons must report for duty. He son could not go because he broke his leg. The whole village said "That is so lucky". He said, "You think?"

I love this story and it reminds me that no matter what happens in life... it will always have a positive and a negative to it. So if I feel like I am going through something that is hard, I remind myself of this story and I know that the positive is just around the corner. It may be in the time frame of the universe and not always mine. Never the less... it is still coming.

Keep the faith and be the change you want to see in this world.

On the Horizon- We are hitting the airwaves with a show of our own.

Susan and Christine Anderson — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 19:00:00 GMT

Coming in April, you will be able to hear us live nationwide over the airwaves and the internet. We invite you to call in and get "Out of the Box™ " with us... Susan and Christine Anderson weekly. We will have more information for you shortly.

Ponder This- Thinking we achieved understanding is only standing where we think we think we are!

Susan and Christine Anderson — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 18:56:00 GMT

Communication is a never ending cycle. Intention is expressed and a perception is gained. Then, a perception is clarified and Understanding is achieved. Then another intention is a expressed. We are all accumulating information at all times to achieve higher levels of understand till this life ends, so make it fun.

Frankly Speaking - Perception + Communication = Understanding?

Susan and Christine Anderson — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 18:53:00 GMT

What color is the sky? Blue you say... Not exactly but yes. To our eyes it is blue... actually it is black. It appears blue, because all the water on Earth reflects back the light which give the appearance of the color blue.

So, did you think... Oh I was wrong? You weren't. You didn't have the whole picture.
Isn't that just like life... Not having the whole picture.

Or, did you think... Yeah... I knew that it was black. If you did, than it is time for the next level. Because it is blue as well. How can both be right? Some say it is an optical illusion, meaning that it appears other than it is. When you look closer it is still blue. It does not change until you leave the atmosphere. So it is merely a perception, which can be a reality for some. So both would be correct on some level.

This is where communication comes in. Once you have formed a perception, one might think to have an understanding. When scientists are looking to gain understanding they observe and participate in many experiments (life). When they have formulated their perception then they speak or conifer with others to see if they have understood what they perceived. Then they begin to say this is now a fact. They also know that a fact is only a fact till they discover it is not. How do we know what is fact and what is not with people. Is anything absolute?

This is a great lead into how people can change through communication if they choose, even you. If you are not communicating through respect and heart than you are not communicating healthy. This is not always easy. Our minds play these tapes with assumptions and deductions... which is the minds job. Analyze, analyze and analyze more. This is not a bad thing unless this is all you are relying on. You need to have heart/compassion with it. Remember you may have known someone for a very long time but by not using heart in your communication you may have overlooked the fact, someone has changed. Life can change in a day; even a moment. Over night success? Have you heard that term? Perhaps someone has worked a life time on this goal and achieved success in that moment. This can happen with so many other things. Think of the person who has been angry for so long... believe it or not they too are learning how to be happy just the on a more difficult path. We have seen the overnight success with many different scenarios. It usually happens when we hit "rock bottom". Most famous person will say they were so broke and some even living on the streets right before their big break.

Where is your rock bottom? Do we really need to get there? No, through healthy communication we can achieve things must faster. Think of the last fight you had with someone. How much time did that take up and if you were communicating through healthy means how much time do think that would have taken. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Follow through on what you say. Ask yourself is what you are about to say "is it kind, is it true and is it necessary"? This is the golden rule of communication. If you look at those that were on the street right before they made it... It was a process. They learned techniques in how to pitch, how to follow up and so on. Once they mastered their technique. They made it. Some never get that far because they give up. Now I am not suggesting you beat a dread horse but never give up on the learning, Just be fluid in how your choose to learn it. Perhaps, then you can master the task.

Learning is a never ending process. Susan and I have learned that the more we learn the more there is to learn. There are so many levels or layers to people and things. When you think you know something, that is when you have achieved "limited" understanding. Welcome to graduation. It's a big step but know that now, it is time to keep going. If someone has achieved a major hit and they do not keep learning they can not keep producing hits.

Ah...evolution and change the mantra for the of the 60's. Let's take a look at the 50's to 70's, the 70's to the 90's. Back when I was (oh here it comes--I thought I would never do this) young people used to buy at Mc Donald's and than throw their garbage out the window. Nowadays that does not happen as much. What was the movement that changed that? Remember the Native American guy who was standing looking at Mother Earth covered in Garbage? He had a tear rolling down his cheek. The moment in people's minds that created change was our perception of what we saw. This was followed by laws to enforce better habits.

We are creatures of habit and creating change can be difficult. It starts with recognizing we are doing something that is counterproductive to what we want or seek. Usually when someone needs to change a bad habits that is self defeating... there are usually many underlining factor. By taking baby steps we can achieve change. Most people think baby steps will take forever... just the first few. Once a baby gets the step down they begin to cruise with small determined steps. Ask any parent of a 1 1/2 year old how hard is it to keep up with those baby steps at times.

So, when we feel a need to learn a healthier way to communicate, because we have just self destructed our world, as we know it; there are things we can do. All of our experiences play out like tapes in our heads. The good, the bad, and the ugly play like music that is not always pleasant. We often assume what a look or word means by an old tape playing in an old song. It is easy to say just "don't assume" what the others may mean by a look or a word. We have our old tapes playing which prevent us from being open. This is where I like to say phone a friend for help to talk out of irrational thinking, even rational thinking sometimes. It may makes complete sense to you. You just need to tell yourself, "you might be drawing a conclusion that is not backed up by fact." That can be hard to do when our tapes are playing so loud. It's important that you create your own support group. Counselor, Books, people who encourage positive changes and challenge you in positive ways.
Hey, print this paragraph out and read it when you feel challenged by those old tapes. It may help you see that changes can happen at any moment. Be your own change. For this situation... think of it as your "Phone a friend" lifeline.

It is easy to cut your own nose off to spite yourself. If you truly want to create a healthier way of communicating, then know this takes time and work. When the desire to change a situation arises realize that change starts with you. A person may think they can control someone else's thoughts or actions but the reality is you can not. When we choose to control or be rigid, we lose a part or all of the very thing we valued.

If you can see the game playing, or dance that people do in conversation, if you can put a listener's cap on when someone speaks and a speaker's hat on when it is your turn, and be sure to allow someone take their turn and finish their thoughts, you may open an opportunity to work in unison with someone and something that is important to you. Take a lesson from the geese. (reread this article in a previous blog) This is what we all truly want is a community that works together. We will get there so much faster if we do.

Remember, life is messy, it has positive and negative moments, and teaches us to know the difference. Surround yourself with positive people and use positive thoughts. Watch uplifting movies, read motivating books and practice taking the high road when everyone wants to take the low one. Hey, subscribe to our blog, take our classes and meet positive students and graduates who "do it" in their life. If you feel a need to control something, control your immediate environment by surrounding yourself with all of the above. Keep doing it until it is second nature! BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND.

So we have covered

1   watching our perception because it might not be what you think.
2   Be that scientist...Confer with those on what your perception is. Did you all come up with them same thing.
3   Choose your words carefully. Do they really reflect who you are and how you feel? Are they kind, true and     necessary?
4   Phone a friend life line. Keep a group around you who will support you in the changes you are making. You need to look in when they suggest something. Also do not judge yourself sometimes we feel we are judge when someone is point out an observation. None of us are perfect. If someone can not point out a self destructive pattern without you feeling judged where can you honestly take that? Not far. Remember nothing is absolute so judgment who is really doing this? Is it you? Remember those who love you are observing you to learn from you not judging just loving and observing. Everyone who says they love someone really only wants what is best this why they bring you their observations. It is your job to take their observation and go inward with your tool belt and say is this something I need to fix?
5   Remember you are creating new health habits in communication and this takes time. You are replacing old habits. do not get discourage. Just do your best.
6 Do not try... do. Do not confuse this. Trying is only the moment right before the attempt which is called doing. You may or may not be successful, but you are still doing. Sometimes we need to review and do again.
7 Everyone can shine. So when one is shining remember to acknowledge it... this way you shine too. We all have our time to shine.

This is all for now. Check back for more things to think about

On The Horizon - TV Appearance on NBC's Ivillage Live

Susan and Christine Anderson — Tue, 14 Aug 2007 23:24:00 GMT

Date is here October 31 at 11:00am Central. Check local listing to see the time in your area. For those in area where this can not be seen on television, be sure to log in to their website. You can see it there.

We will be appearing on In The Loop with iVillage. This is on NBC at 12 pm EST in select cities.
They are Dallas/Ft Worth, Chicago, Hartford, Washington DC, Miami, Los Angeles, San Diego, New York, San Francisco, Philadelphia, Seattle, and Oklahoma City. If you are not in one of those areas then you can log on and watch. There is viewer participation and this is such a great show. Keep checking back for the date.

For more information about this great show, follow this link
http://intheloop.ivillage.com/

There will be more details posted on the website very soon. We will also keep you up to date here. Thank-you for all your support.

We hope you are having a wonderfully marvelous day,

Christine and Susan

Ponder This - Lessons from Geese

Susan and Christine Anderson — Tue, 14 Aug 2007 23:03:00 GMT

Lessons from Geese

Fact 1

As each goose flaps its wings, it creates an "uplift" for the birds that follow. By flying in a "V" formation, the whole flock has 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew alone.

Lesson

People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier, because they are traveling on the thrust of each other.

Fact 2

When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of flying alone. It quickly moves back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front of it.

Lesson

If we have as much sense as a goose, we stay in formation with those headed where we want to go. We are willing to accept their help and give our help to others.

Fact 3

When the lead bird tires, it rotates back into the formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front of it.

Lesson

It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership. As with geese, people are interdependent on each others' skills, capabilities, and unique arrangement of gifts, talents, or resources.

Fact 4

The geese flying in formation honk to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.

Lesson

We need to make sure our honking is encouraging. In groups where there is encouragement, the production is much greater. The power of encouragement (to stand by one's heart or core values and to encourage the heart and core values of others) is the quality of honking we seek.

Fact 5

When a goose gets sick, wounded, or shot down, two geese drop out of formation and follow it down to help and protect it. They stay with it until it dies or is able to fly again. Then, they launch out with another formation to catch up with the flock.

Lesson

If we have as much sense as geese, we will stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we're strong.

Note: Lessons from Geese was transcribed from a speech given by Angeles Arien at the 1991 Organizational Development Network. It was based on the work of Milton Olson. It circulated to Outward Bound staff throughout the United States.

Ok - So, my question is, how many different flocks do you belong to? and are they working for you? Where is the community as a whole? If we can get to where we want to be 71% faster than maybe we need to start flapping. Where could a "flock" take you?

Frankly Speaking - The Other Four Letter Word... Patience

Susan and Christine Anderson — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 01:29:00 GMT

Boy, We hate hearing this word sometimes and--it really feels like a four letter word, doesn't it? We also know that when we hear it, it is because we are pushing to make something happen. Not that you just sit back and wait. You do need to take steps towards where you want to be. But if you are pushing to make it happen you will only meet with resistance. We have to remember that if we keep moving in the direction of what we want we will get there, eventually. Eventually is the important part. So many people either push till they are exhausted and give up or they fall on their face in someone else's eyes.

The key thing to remeber is that it may happen but perhaps, not in your timeframe. This is when we hear patience, and when we chose to give up....we will not always know if our choice only determined that we fell short of the mark or it wasn't meant to be.

Leaps of faith are important and as long as we work hard, are determined and use that unshakeable faith...we can many times feel like we moved mountains.

If this was your last moment on earth, what would you want your legacy to be? Live your Possibilies!!!!
TODAY!

From Your Point of View to Ours - Thank You

Susan and Christine Anderson — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 18:54:00 GMT

I listen to ya'll on WKMX in Dothan, AL every Thursday morning and have thought about calling in, but just figured it would be nearly impossible to get through. I had a dream last night that I called in and my grandmother came through to me. When I awoke from this dream I felt really weird and all I could think about was that I needed to call in on the radio show this morning. As I was listening this morning, I decided that I would try and get through, and low and behold I was able to get through. I was truly AMAZED at how dead on that you were about everything. My heart was racing away with me, I was shaking, and I couldn't keep from crying. You just don't know what that reading did for me. I will most definitely be there the next time you come to Dothan, AL.

Thank You So Much,

Zandi Foss

Zandi,
We love the way spirit encourages and guides us. There are so many people walking through life that don't even recognize the synchronicities of your dream, and the ability to get through...and the messages for you. It is nice to know that heaven and earth is connected.

Take care and thank you to you and other listeners that encourage us to do the work we love.

Susan and Christine

Frankly Speaking - Ego....is yours big, small or balanced?

Susan and Christine Anderson — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 18:15:00 GMT

Why do so many people base their self-worth around someone or something outside of self? Whether it is a lover, a partner, children, friends, job or whatever--Why do you think people are searching for someone or something to bring a validation to their self worth? Does your self worth drive you or do you drive it?

In our authored series, Inner Journey and in our readings we encouarge people to look within (It is where your soul resides). To base your self-worth outside of self, brings to you many lessons in life. Self-worth is our foundation that our egos sing or scream out...so if when we choose to play "small", "victim", "righteous" "justified", "large" or what ever role that is less than positive we are choosing less than our possibilities....it is just less that what we can be. In our teachings, we encourage our students to learn to keep what "resonates" for them, not others for it is there that we learn with less pain. Relationships should "decorate" our life, but for some they are our life. What happens when someone decides to leave that relationship if your self worth is based on it? A whole lot of pain. So as there is a need for balance in most things in life...here too....it is wise to have a balanced self-worth that always is the calling card of our ego. We must help ourselves, if we want to help, or be of service to others. As with the woman who is looking for love......she won't find it sitting at home the only deliveries that happen are ups (brown uniform), postal person...and they are usually not where you will find it. GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE and start living, whether it is getting involved in your community, helping out, or hanging out. CHOOSE where you want to be, CREATE a purpose for being there, and WALK your life through choosing not settling for who is around you, by continuing this quest. Get out of the self destruction of low self esteem and LIVE, one foot in front of the other, EVERY DAY. Be PRESENT to where you are NOT,where you have been, or where you are going; for today was yesterday and tomorrow will be today! LIVE, ENJOY, SING, LAUGH, PLAY and WORK; bringing to you what you want by what you CHOOSE everyday. Remember every day is the new day.....make your time count.

Ponder This - "Most explorers discover things that already exist but were unknown." - Susan and Christine Anderson

Susan and Christine Anderson — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 16:30:00 GMT

Today is a day to be adventurous and explore the possibilities that already exist... inside and out. Find the uncharted territory within you and claim it as yours.

From Your Point of View to Ours - What are your thoughts?

Susan and Christine Anderson — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 16:27:00 GMT

Please submit a question either about the topic in "Frankly Speaking", about Susan and/or Christine Anderson, or what is of concern to you. If we post an answer to your question, you will find it here.

Until then... Have a great day!

Stranger Than Fiction

Susan and Christine Anderson — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 16:19:00 GMT

Do you have a weird ghost story, a coincidence, or just a strange event that has happened in your life or to someone around you? We want to know, so please submit your stories that are stranger than fiction. We will choose some and share our view on them.

Frankly Speaking - What was I thinking?

Susan and Christine Anderson — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 15:54:00 GMT

Family - "Some say you can pick your friends but not your family"... but do you... and for what reason?

We feel you do and for a very specific reason....to LEARN.

When we have choosen a difficult family, some think you need to be there because "it is family" and at any price. An ideal family is a group where you can feel the safest with opening up to sharing how you feel and to just be the true you. An ideal Family can be a group which allows for some mistakes because they know they are all loved, unconditionally. If they do, they would be open to *communicating about anything.

When family is an unsafe environment either physically and/or emotionally you need to disconnect and evaluate what you are putting yourself through.  Yes, you. They may behave badly or crossing boundaries (Is there boundries?) but your perception of the situation is based on your expectations.  Healthy or not they are your expectations of someone else. This is where it gets sticky for most.

You see... controlling behaviors will teach you how little control you have. The sooner you realize that you cannot control others, it gives you your control in "choosing"--you can start taking steps in choosing what you want to do. Here is something to keep in mind, the world is not about you... it is for you. This means you get to choose what you want around you in "your world".

Think about this; you can not fix a problem with the same mind that has created it. It takes two to have a fight or a difficult situation. You have helped to create what is in your life. So, if you do not like where you are, perhaps, it is time to make a change. When you discover what your boundaries are then enforce them. What we mean by this is that you can communicate your intention. Sometimes it is best to remove yourself when the boundries are crossed, so you can evaluate what it is that you want now.

Be the change you wish to see in your family. If you want to be treated with respect and honest *communication through love then you need to give it. The golden rule is to treat others they way you wanted to be treated not treat them how they treated you. Follow three boundaries with your communication; is it kind, is it true and (not or) is it necessary? If it is only two out of three then maybe you need to evaluate what you want to say or how you want to say it. Keep in mind when dealing with others, necessary is a matter of perception.    Speak from what you want the possibility to be and not where you have been.

Families that are dysfunctional are learning functionality though difficult means. With saying that, I want to be very clear that it is healthy and completely OK to say NO more. When a situation has become a danger (Most associate danger with physical but emotionally abusive behavior, can be just as dangerous and it can kill as well, we have all seen.) you need to remove yourself from it, to be safe.

Always remember, if you find yourself on fire (angry); Stop it, what ever is going on. Drop it, have no grudges.  Roll with it, even if you have to roll out of the room or place you are at.

*Communication- while you are talking the other listens and when they talk, you listen. This means no formulating what you want to say next in your head or jumping in.

"Never make assumptions about someone else's intentions based on your perception...
                                       If it hurts ask."                                                                    - Christine Anderson

"If you knew you had one hour left on earth, what is your legacy? Speak your truths from a higher road".                                                                                                             -Susan Anderson

So if someone has said something that you are hurt over ask if they meant to hurt you by what they said and above all keep calm, at least inside of you. Stress can kill. You and the people you love are worth positive communication!